Kyle Troutman: Dear mommas, thanks

Wednesday, May 12, 2021

On Sunday, dads and children everywhere broke out the pancake mix and gift-wrap and gave breakfast in bed and tokens of appreciation for the most special people in their lives — their mothers.

Not to brag, but as of my wedding in October, I now have four mothers — my biological mother, my step-mother, my mother-in-law and my step-mother-in-law (phew!).

I can’t say enough about these women. My biological mother, had me at the age of 16 and also had no idea I would be arriving with a missing limb.

The challenges she had to overcome at such a young age, giving up so much of her normal high school life to raise me and finding ways to help me along with my “handicap,” make her one of the strongest people I know.

Sometimes, I sit back and marvel at how much she gave, early on with me and with her three other children since. Even now, she still has my sister, who lives with Asperger’s syndrome, making her way through high school.

Along with being loving and kind, my mother is clever, creative and, between my siblings and my stepfather, she has the patience of a saint. God bless her for that because if she didn’t, some of us may not be here.

My step-mother is the epitome of what a step-parent should be. She’s always there when I need her, and she’s one of the most purposeful women I have ever known.

She, too, has dealt with difficulties, some of which I and my siblings likely caused early on in our relationship. Sometimes, it takes time and a better perspective to truly understand and respect a person. While that may of taken me longer than I would like to admit, my step-mother plays a crucial role in my life, and I could not imagine her not being in it.

My mothers-in-laws are still relatively new to me, and as far as in-laws go, I have no room to complain. They’ve both welcomed me into their families with open arms, and they provided me with the most special woman in my life — my wife.

Wouldn’t you know it, she’s a mother, too! With an almost 6-year-old and a newborn coming in three months, she’s mothering it up day in and day out, singing nighttime lullabies to one, then weathering a barrage of 3 a.m. in utero rabbit kicks from the other.

She also has to put up with me every day and deserves some type of award for that.

On Sunday, she got her own tokens of our appreciation, a gift or two I knew she would like and a day I thought she fully enjoyed.

As I think of all the mothers in my life and their life experiences, there is one thing I can say with confidence — it’s hard being a mom.

Raising children is one of the most rewarding, and in some ways most trying, exercises in life, and a necessary one to keep humans moving forward.

So, here’s a salute to all the moms out there who have nursed us, played with us, taught us life lessons, let us learn some on our own, helped us when we needed, been a shoulder to cry on and embraced us with the unconditional love some of us may not always deserve.

No matter what our siblings say about us, we love you, and happy Mother’s Day.

Kyle Troutman has served as the editor of The Cassville Democrat since 2014. In 2017, he was named William E. James/Missouri Outstanding Young Journalist for daily newspapers. He may be reached at 417-847-2610 or editor@cassville-democrat.com.

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