Matthew (Matt) Abram

Wednesday, October 16, 2019

Matthew (Matt) Abram, 40, died Oct. 11, 2019. Matt was born Feb. 22, 1979 to Stacy Salyer Jolley and Steve Abram. Matt grew up in the K.C. area and attended Park Hill High School, and a year at Wheaton High School.

He was preceded in death by his father, Steve Abram; grandfather, Eston Harrison; and grandfather, Ben Salyer.

Survivors include: his daughter, Olivia Grace, 16, of Pea Ridge, Ark.; his mother, Stacy Salyer Jolley and stepfather, Robert Jolley, both of K.C.; a sister, Lori Allyn Abram, of Sandusky, Okla.; a brother, Alex Jolley of Olathe, Kan.; grandmother, Mary Harrison; an uncle, Mike Abram; and grandmother, Jackie Presley.

Matt was a father, son, brother and friend to many. He was funny, warm, giving, fearless and resilient. He was also a drug addict.

Matt loved life and people. He gave his time helping others struggling with this horrific disease when he was sober. Matt gave from his heart. The people he touched in and out of rehab were like family to him; people with deep connections and deep friendships. These people were his family.

Not talking about Matt’s addiction wouldn’t be appropriate or honest. Speaking of drug addiction may not be something we typically do in an obituary, but not talking about it and hiding it away continues the shame and guilt people carry with them. I include his struggles to help people understand that behind the addiction are bright, witty, loving people.

Matt was tired. He was so weary of the on-going fight, but fight he did, for years. Sadly the demon he fought was too big; it was too much. Matt’s hopes and dreams are gone, but his spirit continues to live in those who so loved him. He will not be forgotten. His life will not be minimized. I pray Matt has found his peace and he is wrapped in the arms of Jesus. He was truly a beautiful soul.

“Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest.”

Matthew 11:28.